Mr. Would be Daddy – Part 7/10

Mr. Would be Daddy – Part 7/10

As a father, it’s important to be prepared for some major changes after your child is born. First, the changes in routine will seem like culture shock – who will do the groceries, laundry and shopping? How will the housework get done? What about washing and drying baby’s clothes? Will the dinner time change? Will all times change?! Will the baby wake up every hour, every night? Most answers are a big YES, except baby’s sleep habits – they are very variable. The key is – this too, is a phase, which will pass. A newborn baby growing into a fine, healthy, naughty child eager to roll over, crawl and play in the next few months, is an experience you surely want to enjoy every bit! Of course, such an experience comes with adjustments! So, just go with the flow. Remember that, child birth does not automatically ‘click’ the fatherhood button in the brain. Yes, you will feel intense emotional changes within, since you will see and feel that little bundle of joy every day in your hands. But ‘becoming’ a father takes time and practice. Equally important is to BE THERE for her – the mother. This is not only when she wakes up due to ‘middle-of-the-night’ feeding, but at most other times. Please be alert about her ‘baby blues’ e.g. she may cry, get irritable annoyed or have sleep disturbances (except those due to night feeding). Remember that it may not be clinical depression, but could be ‘depressive symptoms’. Very importantly, help her in household chores and baby-chores including diapers – you don’t have to be as good as her, but we all learn with time!


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